A Critical Mistake - Now, Here’s the Important Part of This Concept

Let’s say that you started talking to all of these 100 women, one after the other, and you had to use the same basic attitude and opening with each of them.

What would you do?

If you treated all of them like they were probably NOT single, interesting, stable, etc. (which is the case), then you’d probably scare off the single ones who were your targets, because they’d think you were acting strange.

For instance, let’s say you started a conversation with a very attractive woman in her mid twenties, who was open-minded, funny, and wasn’t concerned with how old the men she dated were (there are a lot of women out there like this... I know this for a fact). But let’s say that you were "playing it cool", not saying anything that might offend or appear "too forward", and generally treating her like she was probably married or had a boyfriend. You’d probably be trying to figure out if she was single, not really paying attention to what you were saying, and you might finish up by saying "So, can I take you out to dinner sometime?"

And what is this hot, smart, desirable woman thinking while you’re acting like a dork? Right... she’s thinking that you’re a dork. Duh.

Now, let’s take the flip side.

Stay with me here.

Let’s say that you treated ALL of the 100 attractive women like they were AVAILABLE, smart, interesting, etc.

What would happen?

Well, you’d probably start flirting with them all right from the beginning, or you’d communicate very quickly that you weren’t just another friendly guy who wanted to talk about the weather.

And what would happen?

Well, as you can imagine, a lot of the women who were either unavailable or unable to have a normal conversation would "reject" you. They just wouldn’t be interested. Their minds would be closed to the possibility of continuing the relationship with you, and they would end the conversation with you in one way or another.

Now, let’s go TOTALLY out into space, and imagine that you were a LAB RAT, and that you had a bar that you could press. And let’s say that 80% of the time when you pressed it you got shocked, and 20% of the time you got a treat.

How long would you keep pressing the bar?

And keep in mind that this is a random system.

You can’t line up all the shocks (or all the rejections from women, in the non-rat experiment that most men live in day-to-day).

You might get 7 shocks in a row at first.

Or you might get 1 treat, then 5 shocks.

Well, for most men, the THOUGHT of being "rejected" by a woman is worse than a shock for a lab rat.

So what do we do?

We don’t even try.

And we miss the opportunities with all of those wonderful, single, available women who are out looking for a man who has the balls to find them.

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