Do You Make These 7 Mistakes with Women?

There are 7 big mistakes that most guys make when they just start out going out with someone new. Look this list over, and then ask yourself if you’ve ever been guilty of any of these.

The good news is that just by knowing these 7 items, you’re protecting yourself from making these mistakes again. Here we go.

1. Volunteering negative information about yourself.

Why is it that we sometimes think that by listing out all our flaws, mistakes, faults and bad habits that a woman will suddenly drop to her knees and thank God that she met us?

Seriously... keep a lid on the negative stuff about yourself. You don’t need to "make sure" that she can live with your faults.

Put your best foot forward... always.

2. Being too concerned with what she thinks of you.

Okay, we all want to be liked, but obsessing about whether or not she likes you is the wrong way to go about it. Try this instead, and you’ll find that you’ll get much better results with women.

ASSUME that she likes you a LOT. Yep, that’s right... just assume it. You’ve got to really know that you’re a good catch, and you’ve got something to offer.

3. Being too "nice".

Okay, where the heck did all us guys get the idea that we have to be super polite in order for her to like us? I’ve found that quite the opposite is true.

That doesn’t mean that you should be a jerk, but look... every other guy is falling over themselves to kiss her butt. You’ve got to be different in order to get her to pay attention to you.

Instead of being a jerk, be willing to bust her chops and make jokes with her. Try it, and you’ll see. I landed my last girlfriend with this very technique.

4. Needing her to like you or approve of you.

Look, she’s not going to agree with everything you say, and if she has a mind of her own... she probably won’t like everything you do. So what.

Be willing to be yourself and STICK to that, even if she challenges you. No... ESPECIALLY if she challenges you.

5. Talking too much about yourself.

Have you ever been on a date, and felt like you HAD to keep the conversation going with her, or else she’d get bored and lose interest? I think we all have... me included!

Believe it or not, silence is okay. In fact, it’s a good thing to shut up once in a while... and just BE there with her.

Be a listener, not a talker. There’s a reason that God gave you 2 ears and only 1 mouth. Remember this mantra: Listening gets me laid... listening gets me laid... listening gets..... okay I’m being silly. Try it.

6. Not being truthful about your desires.

Look, there are PLENTY of women who are more than happy to just have a casual sex relationship with you. But don’t bullshit women by telling them that you’re really interested in settling down into a long term relationship if you’re really not.

Really... it’s bad news, and will not help you get laid at ALL. Be honest about what you’re after, but learn how to communicate it in a way that is attractive to her.

7. Being too agreeable.

Nobody wants to date someone who’s JUST like them. If you ARE dating someone who’s just like you, then one of you is not necessary in the relationship. :)

Be willing to disagree with her, and even make fun of her for thinking the way she does (but in a playful way). Celebrate your differences, don’t hide them.

Be willing to challenge her, also to let her challenge you. We grow by relating to people who are different than us, and trying on their thoughts and ideas to see if it works better than your current one.

Don’t be a "YES man". Hold true to what you think, and you’ll be a lot closer to getting her naked than you’ll be if you agree with everything she says.

How do I learn more?

Now that you know what NOT to do, it’s time to learn the best ways to attract and date smart, beautiful, high quality women... and I’ve got just the thing for you.

If you haven’t already, go check out my new report called "Makeout Mastery". In it, you’ll learn all my best secrets for getting physical with any woman. You’ll also learn what to DO on a date that will turn her on, and make her want to see you more and more.

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Are Beautiful Women Difficult To Approach - Get the Itch to Pitch

And here's a technique to use that will improve your success with beautiful women even more quickly, if you have the cojones to try it: Simply say "Hi" to every single woman you're interested in, and don't end the conversation without uttering these words: "What's your home phone number?" Say those words every single time you talk to a woman you're interested in, no matter how aloof she seems. If the only thing you find yourself able to say is, "Hi" and then, "What's your home phone number?" with nothing in between, that's fine. Your charming patter will come with practice. Do that for ninety days and you'll really be building some courage and competence.

As you keep pitching the beauties, you're going to wind up with some phone numbers. The more attractive the woman is, the more likely it will be that she will cancel any date that you make with her once you call. But some of the beautiful ones will actually keep the date. Then, once you're out with your A plus, use The "System" [a body of principles that guarantee your success with a woman that you love] and be a Challenge [allowing the woman to chase you]. By doing that, you'll be able to win her over and more importantly, keep her.

Remember guys, beautiful women respond to looks, money, power, and celebrity. But there's one other thing they respond to above all and that's a guy who is a Challenge. A guy who isn't seeking her approval. A guy who can say "no" to her once in a while without flinching. A guy who is unpredictable and doesn't let her know if he really likes her or not.

By the way Clifford, all those unattractive guys that you see with the stunningly beautiful babes? They're either rich and powerful or... they're a Challenge.

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Are Beautiful Women Difficult To Approach - Practice is Power

Now Clifford, if all these brutal facts haven't dissuaded you from your quest, let us move forward, boldly and bravely, keeping in mind that there are some devastatingly gorgeous women out there who do have heart and soul, and are not total mercenaries or users.

The key to getting comfortable with approaching beautiful women is to practice, practice, practice on the not-so-beautiful women. Practice on the 6's and 7's, the C's, C pluses and the B minuses. Find where your threshold is. If you find that you're pretty confident with 7's but not with 8's, then push the envelope just a taste, and try the same kind of approach on the low 8's. Don't bite off more than you can chew.

Picture yourself as an athlete in training who is slowly but surely improving his game. Think of each encounter as practice for the next one. Expect to be rejected over and over and don't take it personally. You'll begin to notice that once in a while, you will get a positive response. The more you practice without being attached to the outcome, the more success you will have. Clifford, think of yourself as a soldier of love on a training mission, honing his skills.

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Are Beautiful Women Difficult To Approach - Powerful Mamas

Yes, she's heard it all, she's seen it all, and she's felt it all. All the vibes of lust and longing perpetually projected at her. So she's usually more than a little bit jaded. And the power she wields is mind-boggling. She's also well aware of the immense power she wields, but she'll never cop to it.

Not only is she constantly bombarded with male attention, but she's also extremely spoiled. Men fall all over themselves to try to please her in any way they can. Endless compliments, outrageous gifts, free shopping sprees on Rodeo Drive, all expense paid trips to the finest resorts in the world, invitations to parties with the rich, famous and powerful; all these things and more comprise the cornucopia of delights offered to her on a regular basis. (You don't see average-looking women at Hef's house, do you?)

To make matters worse, men just don't say "no" to her. She's used to always getting her way. She's never had anyone break a date with her. (Although she's apt to break a date at the last minute without a thought if a bigger, better deal comes along.) And, she's never been rejected in her entire life. Compare her experience to yours Clifford.

Because of all these factors, it is extremely difficult to find a solid "10" who is a flexible, sweet, giving person. Most of them are quite demanding and also incredibly self-absorbed. (You would be, too, if you were being worshipped as a virtual deity every day, like, Claudia Schiffer, for instance.) But also be aware that as we move down the beauty scale into the 8 range or below, the Spoiledness Factor goes down, while giving and flexibility go up.

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Are Beautiful Women Difficult To Approach - Lifestyles of Rich & Famous

So why is this creature so intimidating? Well, first of all, since she can literally have just about any guy she wants, her standards are very, very high. In almost all cases, to have any chance with her, you have to be rich and powerful, or extremely handsome, or a celebrity (even being a criminal celebrity will do), or all of the above. Yes, the heavies go out with the heavies. (How often do you meet a beautiful woman who's dating an average-looking, unemployed house painter?)

Secondly, you've got about the same chance of finding a beautiful woman who is actually available, as you do at keeping Al Sharpton away from a TV news camera. Whenever she breaks up with anyone (and believe me, she's always the one doing the breaking), it takes about a millisecond for her to hook up with another one of the numerous suitors she keeps on a string. She'll never go it alone simply because she doesn't have to.

Thirdly, wherever she goes, she's deluged with every form of male attention imaginable. From the most subtle, to the outrageously blatant. From the creepy come-ons of the bumbling morons, to the slick propositions of the street-smart media moguls. Besides these, there are the guys who just get in her space, too timid to speak to her, hoping for one glorious moment of eye contact. A brief smile from her would send most of these guys into orbit.

But how do you make a beautiful woman yours?

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Are Beautiful Women Difficult To Approach?

Hi Doc,

I'm a personable guy with good social skills. When I meet a woman who I couldn't care less about, the conversation just flows. But why is it that the more attractive the woman is, the more my mind goes blank, my personality disappears and my lips just freeze?

Am I alone Doc, or do all guys go through this? And what about all those beautiful women? They have to go out with someone . I see a lot of them with guys who are not very handsome. What can I do to become more relaxed and confident with beautiful women, and maybe win one for myself?

Clifford -- who wants to know why beautiful women are so intimidating.

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doc love's answer

Hi Clifford,

You've asked some great questions. I think that most guys would agree that any woman who would merit a "looks" rating of 8.5 (out of 10) or higher would certainly be considered beautiful. But for the sake of clarity, I'm going to be discussing the most seductive creature on the face of the earth: The perfect 10. The A plus. The woman you'd sell your soul for, no questions asked. Her natural habitat: urban centers of high finance, fashion, politics, and the entertainment industry.

Clifford, you're not alone. Beautiful women intimidate most guys. In fact, plenty of guys get intimidated by average-looking women. But when you find yourself in the presence of a genetic celebrity of the female gender, the sense of longing and confusion can be overwhelming.

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A Critical Mistake -When You First Start Talking to a Woman, Your BELIEFS About Women and Dating Are CRITICAL

If you don’t know how to use your BODY LANGUAGE and other communication to INSTANTLY show her that you’re a sexually aware, confident man, then you’ll probably be overlooked and mentally discounted within SECONDS.

Of course, in order to PROJECT the correct beliefs that are attractive to women, you must KNOW WHAT THEY ARE, and UNDERSTAND THEM.

In other words, you can’t just "fake" them. You actually have to have a DEEP understanding of how women think, and what makes them feel a POWERFUL, gut-level emotional ATTRACTION for a man.

It’s taken me YEARS to figure out this critical point.

I used to try all kinds of techniques to meet women.

But when it came down to it, no matter how well the techniques worked, the women always seemed to slip away at one point or another, and lose their interest quickly.

This was because I didn’t GET IT.

So one of the things that I try to teach guys is how to GET IT, and how to show women that they GET IT.

But "getting it" isn’t as easy as it sounds.

You can’t learn to be a Black Belt in a martial art by learning a few techniques. It takes a DEEPER, more profound understanding.

And you can’t learn how to be super-successful with women by learning a few pick up lines.

It just won’t happen that way!

After spending literally YEARS making mistakes, trying different things, and putting the pieces together, I’ve created a systematic way for men to learn ALL of the various aspects of how to be successful with women and dating.

And I’ve created a few specific educational tools so you can learn this skill... right from the comfort of your own home.

Your Friend,

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A Critical Mistake When Approaching to a Woman - So What’s the Solution?

The solution is to use a little technique called behaving AS IF she’s single, available, and interesting.

You must learn to overcome your initial self-doubt and your doubts about a woman, and behave AS IF every woman you start talking to is SINGLE and AS IF she’s going to be THE ONE, MOST INTERESTING AND WONDERFUL WOMAN EVER.

You must do the things that will attract THAT woman, and forget about the rest.

And you must learn to NOT take the things that happen in between meeting the wonderful ones PERSONALLY.

Gary Halbert, one of the top marketing geniuses in the world, talks about this principle.

He basically says that out of 100 people reading your ad or seeing your commercial, maybe ONE of them is someone who would buy your product anyway.

SO QUIT TALKING TO ALL OF THE 100 PEOPLE, AND ONLY TALK TO THE ONE!

In his words: "Don’t worry about the DOGS, concentrate on selling the FOXES".

I like the metaphor.

Talk to the women you meet AS IF they’re single, open, interesting, and wonderful. And don’t worry about the ones that don’t turn out to actually BE single, open, interesting, available, and wonderful!

Use the things you’re learning from me, and KEEP USING THEM... even if they don’t work sometimes. There are all kinds of reasons why women aren’t interested... or stop being interested... or whatever.

That doesn’t mean that you should stop doing what works!

...which leads me to my next point.

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A Critical Mistake - Now, Here’s the Important Part of This Concept

Let’s say that you started talking to all of these 100 women, one after the other, and you had to use the same basic attitude and opening with each of them.

What would you do?

If you treated all of them like they were probably NOT single, interesting, stable, etc. (which is the case), then you’d probably scare off the single ones who were your targets, because they’d think you were acting strange.

For instance, let’s say you started a conversation with a very attractive woman in her mid twenties, who was open-minded, funny, and wasn’t concerned with how old the men she dated were (there are a lot of women out there like this... I know this for a fact). But let’s say that you were "playing it cool", not saying anything that might offend or appear "too forward", and generally treating her like she was probably married or had a boyfriend. You’d probably be trying to figure out if she was single, not really paying attention to what you were saying, and you might finish up by saying "So, can I take you out to dinner sometime?"

And what is this hot, smart, desirable woman thinking while you’re acting like a dork? Right... she’s thinking that you’re a dork. Duh.

Now, let’s take the flip side.

Stay with me here.

Let’s say that you treated ALL of the 100 attractive women like they were AVAILABLE, smart, interesting, etc.

What would happen?

Well, you’d probably start flirting with them all right from the beginning, or you’d communicate very quickly that you weren’t just another friendly guy who wanted to talk about the weather.

And what would happen?

Well, as you can imagine, a lot of the women who were either unavailable or unable to have a normal conversation would "reject" you. They just wouldn’t be interested. Their minds would be closed to the possibility of continuing the relationship with you, and they would end the conversation with you in one way or another.

Now, let’s go TOTALLY out into space, and imagine that you were a LAB RAT, and that you had a bar that you could press. And let’s say that 80% of the time when you pressed it you got shocked, and 20% of the time you got a treat.

How long would you keep pressing the bar?

And keep in mind that this is a random system.

You can’t line up all the shocks (or all the rejections from women, in the non-rat experiment that most men live in day-to-day).

You might get 7 shocks in a row at first.

Or you might get 1 treat, then 5 shocks.

Well, for most men, the THOUGHT of being "rejected" by a woman is worse than a shock for a lab rat.

So what do we do?

We don’t even try.

And we miss the opportunities with all of those wonderful, single, available women who are out looking for a man who has the balls to find them.

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A Critical Mistake - Most Guy Are Unaware of What They’re Doing

Most of us guys are running around doing things that we’re not even AWARE OF. Or if we are aware of what we’re DOING, we’re NOT aware of what OTHER people (particularly women) think of our behaviors.

Also, most of us guys allow others to control MOST or even ALL of how we act. Now, we won’t ADMIT that we try to do or say whatever we think will please a woman, and we won’t ADMIT that we’re even mentally anticipating what she’s going to think and acting on it... but it’s happening.

And it’s happening ALL THE TIME.

In fact, if most of us could just get a realistic look at how much we’re trying to read women’s minds and act in a way that pleases women, we’d BITCH-SLAP ourselves silly and we’d mentally yell to ourselves "HEY, WAKE UP!".

Think about the following scenario:

You’re out at a bar, and you start talking to an attractive young woman while trying to order a drink. And let’s even say that she starts the conversation by commenting on how busy it is and how many people are in line for a drink.

You’re thinking to yourself

"I wonder if she has a boyfriend... I wonder if she’s here with someone... I wonder how old she is and if she’d like a guy my age... I wonder if I should buy her a drink so she’ll feel obligated to talk to me and I can keep her attention... I wonder if I should just wait and talk to her later..."

Then, you remember that you’ve been reading my articles and my eBook... and learning from my Advanced Dating Techniques Series... and you decide to use some of your new techniques.

So you say

"Hey, do me a favor. I’ll let you go in front of me if you order my drink for me. All the bartenders are guys, and they’ll give you more attention than they’ll give me, OK? I don’t usually use women just for their bodies this early on in the relationship, but in this case I’m going to make an exception".

She laughs.

You think you’re on a roll.

You then say

"But I’m not going to let you pay for it, OK? I don’t want you thinking that I’m easy and that I’ll give you my number or come home with you just because you paid for my drink".

At this point, she turns around and gives you the "You’re a loser" look, and walks away.

Now let’s think for a moment about what could be going on here...

• She might be married.
• She might be in a bad mood.
• She might be a lesbian (not all that bad, actually).
• She might be offended.
• She might be emotionally unstable.
• She might have mis-heard what you said.
• She might have gotten nervous.
• She might have thought you were ugly.

...or the possibility exists that the technique you used might have been horrible.

But what do MOST guys typically do in a situation like this one?

Most guys typically let their emotions take over, and they think "Well that stuff doesn’t work", and they STOP even trying Cocky & Funny humor.

WHAT A MISTAKE THIS IS!

A lot of guys will even try something and have it WORK for them, then have it NOT WORK just ONCE and quit using it because they stop believing in it.

This is a HORRIBLE mistake!

Let me try to say this all a different way...

Out of a random sample of 100 beautiful women, you’d probably find that only 20 of them (or so) are:

• Single
• Emotionally Stable
• Able to carry on an interesting conversation
• Not stuck up
• Not psycho

This is just an estimate from my own personal experience, but I think you get the point.

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A Critical Mistake When Approaching Women

A Huge Mistake You’re Probably Making Right Now
When You Approach a Woman!

Let me ask you something...

When you approach or start talking to a woman that you’re "interested" in, what is your attitude toward her? How do you treat her? What are you THINKING ABOUT?

Do you start the interaction by trying to figure out if she’s single?

Do you assume that she probably has a boyfriend and look for hints that she doesn’t?

Do you try to pretend like you’re not interested in her "in that way" and instead try to be casual about it until you get signals from her?

Do you even THINK about your strategy for how to talk to woman at all?

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Flirting Body Language

Some people think that the ability to flirt is something you have or not have. The art of flirting can be mastered by anyone. It only takes practice if you’re willing to put in the effort. All teachers of art to link differently, but there are some basic body language skills, to master that could help find the flirt in it.

The first thing you need to know is that flirting can be done by anyone. No matter if they are not traditionally handsome or beautiful. People will be attracted to the qualities that are unique to you. Before you can successfully flirt you need to start with an understanding of himself. Learn more about your own qualities and skills to use, flirting technique is essentially a quiet confidence.

So how do get others recognize that they are the kind of person who wants to spend time with? Nonverbal communication is the key. A good starting point to learn the art of flirting is to focus on the eyes (literally, I can not add!) You know those moments when you look in a room and suddenly you catch somebody’s eye and hold it for a moment? What caught his attention? There are many different levels in which they can convey their interest, only by the different types of look that you give. Flirting can incorporate different types of look. Making eye contact, holding, breaking for a couple of seconds and then rerun is one of the most basic methods of flirting, but extremely effective. This quickly gives the impression that you are interested in linking with them and you will be able to say of his reaction or do not share their interest. More aggressive flirting is done by giving the object of a flirtatious look that said, I’m thinking dirty things about you. A long look, a glance up and down your body, perhaps a look that matches your primitive instinct.

Eye contact is obviously crucial, but must be used along with other types of body language. It should be emphasized that it is open to communication by learning to position your body correctly in relation to them. Flirting is a combination of reading their signals while revealing his intentions. Learning is fun to flirt, and quickly increase your confidence in all areas of your life.

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Reading Body Language

In case you’re chatting with someone, it is fairly likely that you must be keen to know as to what must be going on in other person’s head. While you can’t do any mind reading, there is always a chance of reading the body language. Reading body language is an easy thing to do, provided you comply with the given suggestions properly.

In case you wish to read body language, then start off by reading the hands. If the hands of a person are open, it could suggest that he / she is relaxed and comfortable. Open palms mean that the defenses of a person are relaxed. However, in case an individual has absolutely tight palms, then it may convey anger or even restlessness.

When observing hands, pay close attention to the fingers as well. If a lady or a male is moving her/his fingers around the rim of a glass, then it may indicate a seductive gesture. Drumming or tapping with the fingers could indicate frustration.

Though various body parts can convey a lot of things, it is eyes that communicate the most. It isn’t stated without a cause that eyes are windows to the soul. If the pupils of the person you’re talking to are dilated, then this could imply that he/she is interested in the topic. Of course, dilation of pupils could also be a result of low quality contact lenses. So, it is important that you look for other than the eyes too.

Direction of gaze has critical role to play in understanding the body language better. Side gaze is indicative that the person is feeling guilty. On the contrary a direct eye to eye gaze suggests that the person is confident enough. If he/she gazes at the floor for long, it could indicate shame.

If a person is rubbing their chin, it usually suggests that the individual is thinking. In a few cases, it could also be considered as an act of restlessness. However, don’t get confused by the rubbing of chin if a person has acne. He may be doing so to ease the itching accompanied with pimples and zits. Make sure that you recommend the Exposed Skincare System to him / her.

Another important body language sign to watch out for is mimicry. If the individual you are in conversation with is trying to mimic you, it is quite likely that he/she appreciates you. This also indicates that he/she is comfortable in your company. So, don’t get offended if the person begins mimicking you.

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Why Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men - Impressing Beauty

A U-man does not always look for an undiscovered woman; there are cases where U-men approach and date gorgeous women. How do they do it? They don't assume (once again, mother of all screw ups) anything about beautiful women.

We've all heard of the expression, "poor little rich girl," where a rich woman cannot find true love because the men either want her money or are too intimidated by her rich blood. Well, the same applies to beautiful women.

Believe it or not, beautiful women have a hard time meeting men. The reason being that most men are intimidated by their looks. They think that because she looks good, she must be high maintenance, hard to get, already dating, and snobby.

The few men that do approach her are all players who like to play head games just to get into her panties and claim her as a trophy.

U-men that date beautiful women know this. They know that in most cases, beautiful women are single, fed up of head games and craving for a real man to approach them and desire them for who they are and not solely for their bodies.

The U-man must always be one step ahead of the game; he has nothing to lose and everything to gain.

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Why Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men - Sign Her to a Long-term Contract

The problem with a rookie is that once she realizes she's hot, and every man in the room is looking at her, she will slowly start to wonder if maybe she can get a G-man.

Before the makeover, she thought she had no chance of dating any G-man. But now that she's "New & Improved," she'll be tempted to test the waters.

Of course, the U-man knows this might happen, and therefore prepares to lock her in and position himself as an addiction to his girlfriend. This means that he will offer her everything a woman desires in a man -- minus the good looks. The U-man then becomes:

A Smooth Talker
He speaks with confidence and says the right words to make her feel good about herself. The U-man is capable of having an interesting and intelligent conversation.

Fun & Spontaneous
Most women love to have fun and live in the spur of the moment. They love to be in the company of men who can make them laugh and bring excitement to their lives.

Most G-men rely so heavily on their good looks alone to impress women that they forget to make the date exciting. U-men know this and use it to their advantage by planning fun dates in advance such as weekend getaways, dinners at exotic restaurants, horseback riding, rafting, canoeing, mountain climbing, scuba diving, boating, cycling, and even dance lessons. The idea is to not fall victim to the routine trap.

A Real Man
A woman wants a man who can romance her and make her feel special; not only for her body, but also for her mind and soul. She knows that good lovers are hard to find. So if the U-man can make sensual love to her body and mind at the same time, he'll have her signed for life.

A Mature Man
Keeping the relationship fun and exciting is very important. But a man has to realize that life is not all fun and games. A woman likes to know that she can count on her man to provide her with spiritual and financial stability.

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Why Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men - scouting for beauty

Over the years, U-men have learned to adapt their dating skills. Just like a blind man learns to develop his other senses, a U-man relies less on his looks and learns to heighten his other traits.

The mistake most men make is to assume (mother of all screw ups) that every beautiful woman is born beautiful. In general, men have their radars fine-tuned for beautiful women dressed in sexy clothing as they ignore every other woman around them.

G-men assume that to date a beautiful woman, you have to look for a beautiful woman. This is where the U-man outwits the G-man.

While G-men are checking out the "all-star" women, who are already dating and usually spoiled with attention, the U-men are scouting for "rookies" or potential superstars. The U-man learns to spot potential beauty within a regular looking woman before G-men do.

These rookies are usually good-looking women who don't know they have the potential to be hot. They have low self-esteem, lack personal style and lack sex appeal. The U-men recognize their potential and move in.

Because these rookies don't have G-men courting them, they have low self-esteem and have no reason to fix themselves up, until the U-man comes along. The U-man compliments the rookie and makes her feel good about herself.

Eventually, the rookie girl develops a liking for the U-man. For this reason, she begins to dress and fix herself in a stylish manner. The U-man even accompanies the rookie shopping and suggests sexy clothing to the ready-to-impress girlfriend.

By the time the U-man is finished with her, he has produced a sophisticated, well-dressed woman who oozes sex appeal from every pore. While all the G-men are left wondering, Oh crap! How could I have missed her? Man, does she look good when she fixes herself up.

Scouting is good, but it's not enough. The U-man knows that he has to work hard to keep his new found *star*. The U-man now has to sign her to a long-term contract before she is swooped away by a smooth G-man.

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Why Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men - The ugly secret

Over the years, U-men have developed two kinds of strategies to date beautiful women. The first strategy is called Scouting For Beauty , and involves looking for undiscovered, up-and-coming beautiful women.

The second strategy is called Impressing the Beauty , and involves impressing a beautiful woman who has no boyfriend and is sick of all the head games played by G-men. All she wants is an honest, trustworthy, fun man who can bring stability into her life.

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Why Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men -false assumptions

What can she possibly see in him? It must be the cash, and judging by her looks, he must have a lot it. This is probably the very first thought that goes through most G-men's minds.

This assumption cannot be further from the truth. True, having financial stability does help a man find a beautiful woman, but this is not the most important aspect. It's the combination of several traits that will help a man find the woman of his dreams.

As long as men keep reasoning that beautiful women date ugly or regular-looking men for their money, they will always miss out on opportunities to meet gorgeous women. Like my father used to say, "Son, assumptions are the mother of all screw ups. Never assume anything with women -- unless it's an acrobatic position."

If U-men don't need cash to bait beautiful women, then what's their secret weapon? What are these famous traits that will help a regular looking Joe like myself meet a girlfriend like Estella Warren?

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Why Do Beautiful Women Date Ugly Men?

It's a typical boys night out and on our way to the movie, we walked by a couple holding hands. The woman had what I like to call a "triple-take" face: I looked at her three times before I noticed her boyfriend was about to hit me over the head.

Luckily for me, I was surrounded by six friends and so the worst thing that happened was a "watch it buddy" killer stare.

This woman was hot! Not only did she have a tight dress to show off her killer curves, she also had the face of an angel. Then it dawned on me; the chunky Ron Jeremy [famous porn star] look-a-like boyfriend didn't really have the looks to merit such a beautiful girlfriend. What was so special about him?

I did not spend too much time thinking about it until I walked by another unusually mismatched couple. As my buddies and I entered the theatre, a two hundred-pound (I'm not talking about muscle), short and bald man (imagine Jason Alexander) walked by me with this beautiful woman that made Sofia Vergara look like a plain Jane.

Okay, now things are fishy. I saw too many inequitable couples within a span of twenty minutes. As far as I know, there is no shortage of good-looking men (G-men) nor is there a high supply of gorgeous women to go around for everyone. How can beautiful women date such ugly men (U-men)? Or better yet, how can U-men land such beautiful women?

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She’s Probably Shallow, Stupid, Boring

The second way men edit out women before they know them is to assume that the woman, physically attractive as she might be, would never be smart enough, interesting enough, passionate enough, or whatever enough, for him.

If these guys were to articulate this feeling, they would say something like, "Hot, stylish women are shallow, stupid, and not interested in anything except how they look. I just wouldn’t get along with a woman like that."

Before you instantly decide that YOU aren’t like that — you’d be happy to sleep with a vapid fashion model, tonight — be aware that many men think that they want that, but when it comes down to it, they really don’t. They like the fantasy of being with a shallow, hot woman, but in reality they aren’t into it. They really, truly want to be sexual with women they are attracted to, and whom they actually like.

Whether this describes you or not, a lot of men edit out women thinking that, hot though the women may be, they don’t seem like someone the guy would like. Another man we know did this with a woman he met though a social group he was part of.

"She was cute, but I just assumed I wouldn’t like her, because she didn’t seem like the kind of woman I normally went for — she seemed really girly, and I assumed she’d be shallow and dumb." But that didn’t turn out to be true. "As I spent more time with her, by accident, as we were hanging out with the same people — I saw that she was nothing like I originally thought she’d be. I really liked her and she really turned me on." They started dating and got into a relationship.

It’s worth asking, how many women like that were out there for him? How many such women got "edited out" of his mental list of women he could date, because he assumed instantaneously that he wouldn’t like them?

This is not to say that if you stop editing out women, all women will automatically like you, or that you will automatically like all the women you are physically attracted to. But it will help end the problem we hear from men over and over — even from men who live in cities full of hot, available women, like New York City or Los Angeles — that there are no women they can date.

If you currently edit out 99% of the women you could possibly approach, before you even think about them (and many men do), and you reduce that to only editing out 94% of possible women, you have increased your pool of possible women by a huge percentage! That’s good news — it’s a small change that could make a big difference.

If you understand that you have been editing out far more women than you need to, you will be able to get more women into your dating system, and get a lot more of what you want from them.

Please visit our site if you have any questions or would like more detailed information on how to meet more high-quality women.

Best of luck!

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She Would Never Like Me

They see an attractive woman, tell themselves that "she would never like me," and edit her out of the pool of possible women they could date.

We had one student who did this constantly, and who learned a valuable lesson about it. He had seen a girl at a local dance club on a number of occasions. She was the kind of girl he liked — short, trim, with dark hair and horn-rimmed glasses. She was also about 20, in his estimation — and he was 38.

"Naturally" he assumed that she would never be interested in a guy like him. He gave himself reasons why that must be true: He was too old for her, he wasn’t good looking enough, he was too fat, and so on. He then continued to wonder why there were no women out there for him to date.

As part of working with us, he posted a personals ad on the internet, looking for women in his area. He didn’t get many answers, but there was one women who caught his interest.

She wrote, "I’m 20, so if that’s an issue for you, you should let me know. Also, I’m bisexual, so if that’s an issue, you should know upfront about it." (To put it mildly, that was NOT an issue with him.)

They emailed back and forth, exchanged pictures, and — you guessed it — it was the girl from the club. They really clicked on the phone, and in person, and in short order became lovers, and dated off and on for over a year. She once told him, "Some of the things I like about you are that you’re older, mature, and you don’t live with your mother!"

He later told us, "I can’t help but wonder how many women like that are out there for me, but who I reject instantly, before they even reach my conscious mind, just like I did with her."

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Where to Meet Great Women

Question:  I live in a big city (Los Angeles), but there don’t seem to be any women I can date here. What can I do?

Answer:  This is most likely a problem of "editing out" women you could possibly interact with, before you even think about them consciously.

If you currently edit out 99% of all the women you are attracted to right away, then of course it will seem like there are no women you could be attracted to — and doing such editing is much more common than you might think.

There are two main ways men edit women out, before they even think about dating them. First (and most popular), is by telling themselves...

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The Facebook Profile Picture That Will Get You LAID!

This is one of the questions I get all the time!

“What kind of profile picture should I use, Derek?”

Listen closely because your Facebook profile picture is one of the most IMPORTANT feature of your profile... girls simply won’t even respond to you if you have that really, really creepy picture. You know the one I’m talking about... those webcam pictures... the ones where the guy is just sitting there in front of the computer smiling?

That’s pretty much telling the world... “I’m a creep.”

Give me a minute and I’ll tell you about a picture that WILL get you laid... or at least get a phone number of that really hot chick you’ve been wanting for forever on Facebook!

This is what I like to call the “Prop Picture”.

Do you have a picture of you standing beside something really cool? I mean really, REALLY cool.

Here... this is a pic that I used that got me SO MANY responses from gorgeous girls. It was a picture of me standing in front of the Eiffel Tower with a really beautiful girl.

Here’s why this picture is so great...

First, it conveys high value – you’re showing that you love to travel and that you have the MONEY to travel. It shows that you’re adventurous and interesting.

Secondly, and most importantly, it shows that you’re pre-selected by having a beautiful woman stand beside you. This will immediately give off a positive impression.

Ever heard of THAT tip before? If you associate yourself with beautiful-looking women (even if they’re just friends!) you will automatically be deemed as much more attractive.

So that pic of me in front of the Eiffel with one of my gorgeous, stunning girlfriends got me laid countless times. You don’t have to have something as extravagant as that, though... maybe you have a picture of you surfing or maybe even just playing the guitar!

Of course there’s much more to it than just having a good profile picture... you need to know how to TALK to girls online as well.

That’s why in my program I lay out, step-by-step, everything you need to know and do to get those GORGEOUS girls on your Facebook/MySpace friends list in bed with you!

Check out my program right now at...

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